A Meeting with Parents
By
Prem Prasad Sigdel
The meeting with parents in school is challenging
for school, teachers, children and parents. All partners have been feared with
one another whether their weaknesses have been revealed. Mostly children have
been feared because parents and teachers would have complained them. Teachers and
school may get charged of not teaching according to the interest of the students
and parents have been feared whether their children would have been blamed. It
has been a matter of headache for all partners due to low achievement of
students in exam. Indeed, it also raises doubts and angriness of all the
partners due to unexpected achievement from all sides. It is evident that neither
partners have been satisfied with the result.
The meeting that I attended had been diverted towards
the students who had been at the altar like a goat. Others are also much disenchanted
with their children because of their addiction to cell phone. Children often
tell lies like they don’t have homework or they need cell phone to do homework.
In reality, it’s a pretention that they often watch cell phone or they use
messenger to copy homework from their friends. It kills their creativity which
has been visible to parents and teachers so they want to make students more
responsible. The fact is that, they have often made pretentions to get cell
phone and spend time surfing it. It has annoyed parents and teachers very much
so they want to refrain from this trouble.
It was the meeting of class 9 where almost 50
students and their guardians have presented. The guardians have blamed their
children of spending time watching cell phone; however, they have been unable
to stop that. So they have been furious towards their children therefore they
have taken the meeting as opportunity to make their children realize the
mistake. They have been irritated because they can not complain their children
at home due to their insisting nature. On
the other hand, the teachers have also taken it as opportunity to take benefit
like parents. It seems that parents, teachers and school are one party and students
are opposite party. Therefore, it turns into an endless matter; sometimes it does
not match with the meeting agenda
Each partner abuses one another so it seems like
informal meeting among these partners. Sometimes the meeting of these four
partners i.e. school, teacher, students and guardians has become a mess when
parents have taken this time as an opportunity to blame their children of not
obeying them or following educational duties duly. The focus of parents has
concentrated on academic programs only whereas students have focused on other
activities. It is visible that parents have much dissatisfaction towards
students and their activities which have been particularly targeted on using
cell phone. It is clear that parents and teachers often blame that students use
cell phone so they have low academic achievement. Students have also admitted
it whereas some of them have claimed that they have used cell phone for right
purpose. It is evident that students have behavioral problem because they do
not follow household duties rather spend time watching cell phone.
In a nutshell, the students have been asked two
questions: why were they failed or got less mark? And, what should be done to
get good grade? The students have accepted that they could not do well in their
exam. They also promise to get good marks in the coming examination. However,
they have presented different arguments regarding school. One of the students
has argued that cell phone can be used for positive purpose. All the teachers
and parents have agreed with the logic; however it has been one of the logics
only. Similarly, some students have said that homework was more; it was not
accepted by parents and teachers. The parents have demanded even more homework
so that students can spend time doing homework rather than eying for cell phone.
On the other hand, teachers have not assigned more homework so it has been
rejected. One of the students asked to sing rap song in each program; then the
principal has put condition that he should have done some progression in study to
get such opportunity. He even said that his YouTube channel should be liked and
subscribed by all. One of the students has demanded that he should not be forced
to trim his hair.
It seemed too odd in the meeting when routine was not
managed; or the meeting seemed messy. When routine was managed, everything would
go schedule wise. A motivational aspect has been focused excessively which had
been useless for them. Such programs have happened before so students do not be
careful. It’s a revenge! Students have been made a goat at altar! They have
been feeling fear! They have been given difficult option either to chose or
reject study! Who is responsible for bad result and what should have been done?
They face such difficult option either to swallow or vomit out! It seems that
meeting was organized to defame students or to make them realize their mistake,
watching cell phone, only. As we evaluate their demand they have taken study as
second option. They want to do different things differently; so the conflict
arose. It seems that they have been forcefully sent to school, taught and
involved in examination!
It is visible that guardians have been faded up with
their children’s behavior. They express their views that it has been the dead
end for children. They surrender everything for school when they have been
unable to guide them at home. It seems that children are the winners! Most of
the students have already promised their parents not to speak anything in the
meeting which has been told by the parents individually. Students seem so
cunning that they remain silent ignoring the discussion in the hall. I think
they have been planning for the day after meeting! They have only sought
redemption from the meeting; then that was their day! The meeting that happens
in paradoxes which has no end or it seems starting of the process.
The meeting happens for weaknesses only it seems
there is no positive side at all!