Asocial Man

By: Prem Prasad Sigdel

We have a neighbor who has always done odds at the locality. He is aloof from the neighbors or no neighbor has responded him well. Their family members have also formed the same nature that nobody would sympathize them. He has a bungalow, cars and his profession is also an engineer. His job and the social position haven’t matched because of his nature and asocial character.

He has been living nearby our residence for three years. He has complained this and that time and again. We haven’t listened his voice rather we have done what we have planned ignoring his voice. He has unnecessary demands with us which nobody would like in normal society. So he is the man-of-odds and he has talked in such a way that would make us laugh.

His wife is one of the examples of barbaric woman as I have seen. She doesn’t allow us to do anything inside our compound. If we ask assistance to them they would rightly reject to do anything. They didn’t allow us to tie the rope of tent on special occasion even. They ask to use our compound but they don’t allow us anyway. We used to help them at first; when we came to know his character we haven’t had relation with him thesedays. Not only us, but other neighbours also have faced the same problem with him. The neighbors talk also only about his asocial character and behaviors.

It’s not better to write negative to any person but the thing is that how a man can be asocial like that. It might be his brought up which affects him greatly. He has no belief to others so he never trusts them. If his brought up has influenced him, he wouldn’t be asocial like that. His wife has also got the same character or she is much more than him. So I can question his acquired character rather his hereditary character.

The dialogue between his acquired and hereditary character can be exceeded by his acquired character as we have seen husband and wife’s attitudes. When we see his intercaste marriage, he is a man-of-revolution in Nepalese context. However, his attitude and characters have affected his acquired character greatly. When we see his education, his family background would be better because only the person who had good earning would be able to make their children engineer.

I evaluated his asocial character in the following series. Firstly, he is a man of pride; secondly, he has married such a woman that his family has rejected; thirdly, he would boast for his property; fourthly, he has developed sense of competition with his families and neighbours; fifthly, he has no belief to others as he was rejected from the society.

Man is a social animal by nature as we have been realizing the fact that a society can’t be run without cooperation or social harmony. Being asocial has various defects in our personal as well as social life. Since we live in the society we have to adjust with the neighbors. The neighbors have been needed at the time of emergency which we haven’t known at all. If we have such characters, we can hardly get help from neighbours.